The Abandonment Lie

Metaphorical Narrative

Imagine standing in a deserted train station. The train that was supposed to carry you into belonging pulled away years ago. Empty tracks hum with the ghost of departure. Echoes of “you were left behind” bounce off the cold walls.

But then, out of nowhere, a flood of light crashes through the ceiling. It doesn’t ask if you’re ready, it doesn’t negotiate. It simply washes the station clean, leaving no shadows. The train? Gone. The story? Done. The light makes one thing clear: you are not waiting anymore. You walk out of the station on your own two feet.

Core Insight

Abandonment happened. The pain was real. But the ego’s trick is to tattoo it onto your identity, replaying it as if it defines you forever. That’s the lie. The truth is simpler and far more powerful: you were hurt, yes, but you are not stuck. Executive choice overrides history.

“Get over it” isn’t cruelty. It’s liberation. It means: you don’t have to carry this verdict forward.

Saturday Experiment

1. Write the sentence: “Yes, I was abandoned. Yes, I move on.” Say it out loud three times.
2. Notice the body’s protest — the little tugs of fear or anger. Breathe once, then flood them away like water over tracks.
3. Step outside and take five minutes walking, repeating only: “I move on.” Let the rhythm of your steps lock it in.

Sunday Reflection

Write in third person:

• What old story did he/she/they finally leave in the station?
• What does moving on look like for them now?
• If the ego tried to replay the scene, how did they respond with authority instead of replaying pain?